Who you are when you’re single… isn’t always who you become in an intimate relationship. Love has a way of awakening the parts of us we thought were settled — not to destabilise us, but to grow us. In IFS (Internal Family Systems), we learn that you are the primary caregiver of your parts. In Gottman Couples Therapy, we understand that repair, responsibility, and emotional attunement are what build lasting connection. 💡 Your partner is your secondary caregiver — not your fixer, not your emotional regulator. So the real work of love is learning to: ✨ Recognise your triggers ✨ Take responsibility for how you show up ✨ Repair with integrity ✨ And do your own inner work — so you can truly meet your partner with presence When both people commit to this? That’s where intimacy becomes transformation. 💬 Tell me — which part of you tends to get most activated in your relationship?

Curious about Internal Family Systems (IFS)? Or maybe you’re already working with a therapist… but want to go deeper with your parts. This gentle 5-step practice can help you start noticing the unconscious patterns that show up when you’re stressed, triggered, or just overwhelmed. Inspired by Dr. Richard Schwartz’s book No Bad Parts, this process reminds us: 🌱 You are not your habits. 🌱 You are not broken. 🌱 Every part of you is trying to help. Here’s how to start: 1. Notice when a part is present 2. Name it + ask: How do I feel toward this part? 3. Ask Why it’s showing up 4. Understand its protective role 5. Offer Compassion instead of resistance If you’re exploring parts work on your own or with a therapist, this framework can ground your process in compassion, not control. 💛 Want to go deeper in your IFS work? You can book a session with me through the link in my bio — or just send me a DM to talk more. You deserve a healing process that honors all of you.

In today’s world of uncertainty and options, commitment can feel like a risk. But through the lens of the Gottman Method, it’s a foundational bid for trust, safety, and intimacy. And through IFS (Internal Family Systems), we understand: When we pull away from commitment, it’s often a protector part—guarding a wound, a fear, or a past story. The goal isn’t to silence it… It’s to listen, heal, and lead with Self. ❤️ Whether it’s love, purpose, or healing— Commitment is not about perfection. It’s about presence. 🎯 Choose. Stay. Repeat.

-the importance of having both felt closeness and space in the intimate relationship.

What is flooding? Its physiological response to a perceived threat. Symptoms include; feeling overwhelmed, out of breath, racing heart, withdrawing/shutting down, can no longer take in your partners perspective, wanting to lash out and or get away. When we are flooded our pre-frontal cortex literally becomes flooded (this is what is responsible for our logical and rational thinking). When flooding happens in an individual the only thing that a couple should do is call time out for both individuals to take time to de-escalate and self soothe. When a couple conflict agreements such as time out when someone is flooded and we always come back to finish the conversation once de-escalated it provides safety and support for couples to navigate flooding and conflict in a more protective way- ensuring unnecessary damage or doesn't occur due to flooding.

Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling, the four toxic behaviours within a relationship that have been proven to destroy a relationship overtime.